We stop seeing as much positive and start complaining.It is a psychological imperative to fight hedonic adaptation if we want to maximize happiness. v=Dln Ob IFBCY4 I’m not suggesting that criticism and self-focus don’t have a place in the workplace, but I think we’re overdoing it.Gratitude can’t cure cancer (neither can positive-thinking), but it can strengthen your physiological functioning. The details are complicated, but the overall picture is not – if you want to improve your health, improve your mind. better coping & management of terminal conditions like cancer and HIV, etc…) apply to gratitude as well.In fact, some recent science shows just that – those who engage in gratitude practices have been shown to feel less pain, go to the doctor less often, have lower blood pressure, and be less likely to develop a mental disorder. think of it as a reflection of my personality, it comes out naturally 🙂 The research for this post took an extremely long time (~25-30 hours), but because I’m such a nerd, that was fun and just replaced my usual reading time.That can work, but it can also make us narcissistic or even back-fire and lower self-esteem. Despite your asking and pleading, no one helps you.Now imagine a world where many people help you all of the time for no other reason than that they like you.In this regard, gratitude practice can be better than self-esteem therapy.Self-esteem therapy focuses the individual back on themselves: I’m smart, I look good, I can succeed, etc….
Optimism is correlated with gratitude because those with an optimistic disposition are biologically more likely to focus on the good (gratitude) than on the bad (personal disappointment, anxiety, etc…). The problem with materialism is that it makes people feel less competent, reduces feelings of relatedness and gratitude, reduces their ability to appreciate and enjoy the good in life, generates negative emotions, and makes them more self-centered.
I expect this to change – because of my compassion and gratitude practices I am starting to have spontaneous urges to help others.
This is because the very nature of gratitude is to focus on others (on acts of benevolence).
For example, spiritual individuals are more likely to feel a strong spiritual or emotional connection with others, and to believe in inter-connectedness.
Both are prerequisites for feeling gratitude – someone who feels weak connections with others, and who believes in the illusion of self-sufficiency is unlikely to feel gratitude. I’m a lot better now that I’ve brought gratitude into my life, but I still spend way too much time thinking about myself, and too little thinking about others.